Thanks a lot, Lisa —- Dear Lisa, Thank you so much for your email. As you know from our exchanges, I’m going to respond publicly here, and I also want Design Mom Readers to respond, because I think this is a topic that benefits from many experiences and many points of view. Second, I don’t know you or your parents, but based on what you wrote, and your confidence, I think they seem pretty great.
Today my sister said “when I was in jr high I thought sex was __ and__ and then I figured out it was so much more”.
The experience of sex is so personal, and everyone you talk to will have experienced sex differently in small or big ways. Here are some things from my own experience with sex that might help. From your letter, I get the idea you’re looking for real advice, more than just a reassurance that sex is good.
My apologies in advance if this is too deep a dive.
So open conversations can bring it back to normal really quickly.
In addition to your parents, I hope you will also ask other adults in your life (teachers, church leaders, aunts) for open conversations about sex.