“If you choose to (continue that behavior), you choose to (receive whatever consequence has already been established as a punishment)”.
Second, the threat is usually not something that is feasible to do (we are going home, you are going straight to bed, you don’t get dinner, you are grounded for a week, etc.) What we say in frustration is not only impractical but easily forgettable. You can train yourself to be clear and concise, using choices.Choose whether the other person really needs to know about the issue, and if yes, let the child decide who will tell them.“Do you choose to tell (Mom) what happened, or choose for me to tell her with you there to make sure that I explain it correctly?Of course, there will be times when a task must be completed in a certain fashion (homework, etc.).However, many times we force kids to do something the “right way”, when it could have been done in several ways.