If I bring this up my wife will wonder what I’m trying to say!
” It is assumed that each one is okay since they are ‘with each other’, he adds. Patrick adds, “It is the young girls you meet who assume you are safe because you are married.
That depends on why you are doing it, and also on the depth of the relationship.
But she also insists that HIV positive people also have a responsibility to make their partners aware.
Most importantly, many people do not know their HIV status.
But those who realise that something serious is starting should always give each other a broad-brush description of their relationship history (no details, just the basics).
He didn't have to do that, but as our conversation gradually shifted in the direction of sex, it was bound to come up. I had never met someone who was HIV-positive, and frankly, I knew close to nothing about the disease at all. We had never gotten to the point of anything close to sex, but we did make out in my room. I had been feeling sick the days prior, so was I now infected? And he also explained more about his low strain and how undetectable it was due to the medicine he was on.
I ask them, “Do married couples talk about HIV/Aids?
” Patrick, the more talkative and animated of the two, quips, “Aiii bwana!
They used condoms for the first two months of dating, “then one day we just did it without,” she says. After that I had a pregnancy scare which turned into a HIV scare. “I’d go out with my friends, meet guys and engage in some harmless flirting. He asked me if there was something he needed to know, like my health status.
We got tested and both the pregnancy and our HIV status turned out negative.” Mary hasn’t dated anyone else since, but she says that next time, she will find a way to bring up the HIV conversation before discarding the condom. Knowing a partner’s HIV/Aids status is meant to be one of those early deal-breaker pieces of information, but people seem to be more concerned about not offending their potential partner with the conversation. When I’d leave to go to the bathroom, one of my girlfriends would tell the guy, ‘Be careful with that girl, she has Aids,’ despite the fact that being HIV positive doesn’t mean you have Aids.”She dated one man for four months during which she didn’t tell him her status because her girlfriends warned her that it would scare him away. And I knew that he knew.” That was the end of that.