'It was just so wonderful and liberating that there were other people who felt as I did, and [to know I wasn’t] a freak anymore.
I’d sit up writing comments on the website until stupid o’clock in the morning.’ AVEN now has about 50,000 to 60,000 members around the world, who chat on its online forums as well as meeting up in person, and even dating through the site.
She confesses, 'Sometimes I have thought to myself that maybe it would be a good idea.’ Some people argue that there’s no need for a label for every orientation.
Anwen says: 'People say, “Asexuality’s not a real sexuality, you’re trying to be special or different.”’ As Jean explains, that’s not the case: 'Asexuality is a part of who I am but it does not define me.
My energy is that way rather than towards sex.’ In her twenties, Clare thought she might be a lesbian and dated a woman, but her partner left her because she did not want to have sex.
She hasn’t masturbated for about 10 years – having only ever tried it out of curiosity.
Someone can be healthy and happy as an asexual person.’ It can be stressful, though, to be in a sexual/asexual relationship.
Clare Green, 37, has been married for 10 years and has a seven-year-old daughter.
A recent date 'ended awfully when I told him that I was asexual’. '“You’ll grow out of it, it’s just a hormonal thing, you never know until you try, how do you know, you just haven’t found what you like yet…” are all very common things to be told.’ When you’re over 60 and still being told you just haven’t met the right person, it’s more annoying, of course.
Look through the profiles of Member users that have joined Asexual Dating that are tagged with Gamer.
Talking to other singles who have like minded interests is a great way to come up with ideas to do once you are dating.
She explains: 'Holding hands is as far as I would ever take anything. 'I let it slip one time at work that I’m an asexual aromantic [an asexual who is also not interested in making romantic attachments], and they think it’s absolutely hysterical,’ says Jean Wilson, a sales assistant and 63-year-old grandmother from Banbury.
'One of the women I work with said, “I don’t think you’ve met the right man yet.” I said: “Trish, I’m 63.