You can tell who these men are because when they’re not with you, you don’t exist. We want someone who is attractive, who doesn’t criticize us or tell us how much we need to change, who we can spend lots of time with without getting bored, who we can bring around our friends and families with minimal incident.
They’ll call you once a week to hook up and that’s all.
Seriously, apart from “The Game” have you ever seen a relationship book for men that’s sold in airport bookstores? Women – at least my clients – can only date .0001% of men.
These guys play on their terms, not yours and are a total waste of time to any woman trying to forge something real and lasting.
It’s like trying to teach a fish to ride a bicycle. Women expect their relationships to be transcendent.
Humans are very bad at actually understanding the source of our emotions, a tendency known as misattribution of arousal.
We feel the physical effects – increased heart rate, nervousness, cold sweat, shaky limbs – and backfill the explanation for them afterwards.