On the other hand, a nice middle manager (during the day) indulging in some innocent rock-star fantasies (by night) could be just the ticket. ' You'll learn about his path of life so far, including education and goals," says Nina Atwood, author of Be Your Own Dating Service: A Step-by-Step Guide to Finding and Maintaining Healthy Relationships (Henry Holt, 1996).The big drawback of music clubs, of course, is that the noise level can make it hard to hold a conversation. Just be sure to check his left hand for a ring or tell-tale tan line. While the Red Cross does not release statistical data on the male/female ratio of blood donors, any guy who would give up his own body fluids to help out a stranger has got to be a quality date.True, comedians have a tendency to be emotionally needy and self-centered.But if he makes you laugh, you may be willing to put up with the occasional bout of insecurity. Even if you know nothing about the game, you can still enjoy sitting outside on a summer night with a bag of peanuts and a hot dog." says an exasperated 32-year-old Newark, New Jersey, panelist for Answerology.com, a Web site that aims to bridge the communication gulf between the sexes. Acting classes are filled with gorgeous nymphets and men who make great shopping buddies.With the help of Answerology creator Matt Milner, we've asked men from around the country to tell us where the heck they are—and the easiest ways to meet them! Your average stand-up class, on the other hand, is a festival of testosterone.The result: She met tons of smart, funny and fascinating... Because contrary to popular opinion, men are out there."Here's a little-known fact: One out of every two people is a guy!
She took acting lessons, joined a book club, and became devoted to yoga. My new pursuits nourished my soul, but I have to say they did zip for my love life." Marla realized that if she wanted to start dating again, she'd have to think a bit more strategically.
And breaking the ice is easy: A simple "Your routine was hilarious" (preceded, of course, by hearty laughter) should do the trick. The beer line should be packed with fans; so get behind a cute one and ask him about his favorite team, advises a 39-year-old from Vancouver. Next Saturday night take a bunch of your girlfriends to a nightclub that hosts local bands. If you've been meaning to do some meet-and-greets as a way of boosting your career, here's some added incentive: Business conferences and seminars are filled with smart, ambitious men with whom you can talk shop.
Better yet, join a softball league -- you're sure to find a wide array of physically fit boys of summer. You'll find them right up on stage: clusters of men, pouring their hearts out, trying to impress you. Tortured artists are dazzling on stage, but can be a drag in real life. "Strike up a conversation around your mutual business interests, then ask 'How did you get to where you are today?
After the braces come off and the acne clears up, you're left with a smart, nice-looking man who on some level will always feel extremely grateful to have a girlfriend. So, read a couple of good science-fiction books -- or just rent The Lord of the Rings. If you want to find a nice, laid-back guy, go to a bar that has sawdust on the floor and bowling trophies on the walls.
Then ask a late-bloomer about his favorite Phillip K. Sports bars are particularly good because 98 percent of the clientele will have a Y chromosome. Sure, you'd rather see the new Matisse exhibit; just squint your eyes and pretend it's abstract art.