The guy and me met at university last september, he’s German, I’m Dutch.
He already liked me before I liked him, we kissed at Halloween, and after that there was still flirting from time to time (and at moments I started just doing my own thing and didn’t focus on him at all he would suddenly pop up to get attention from me) and that increased especially the two weeks before Christmas break. What I found out (much much later) is that in December he started seeing this other girl in his hometown.
He even mentioned sometimes that I’m not like any girl he knows.
He just couldn’t stay away, all my friends saw it and were so happy for me.
If that’s the case the second red flag that he’s seeing another woman is…
Secrets seem to be appearing where there wasn’t ones before like where he’s going, what he’s doing, who he’s doing it with.
Depending on a few factors like age and circumstance that could be several years.
If you’re not exclusively dating I would assume AND expect he IS seeing other women too.
nother way to look at this problem is to consider the two types of cheaters and THEN check for the sudden ( although sometimes subtle ) behavior changes. He’s afraid to piss you off and suddenly begins to go out of his way to make sure you’re happy.
i Tara, There are two red flags to look out for to determine whether a guy is seeing other woman.
The first one deals with a guy you’re not seeing exclusively.
His sudden change of behavior is almost always directed outwardly and finds ways to explain his actions through blind logic, a loss of empathy towards you and your problems, AND a social life which is erratic and unpredictable. Expect the guy you’re seeing IS seeing other women and unless there’s been an agreed upon exclusiveness to your relationship, give yourself credit for dating a guy who has choices.
You two might not end up together BUT if that does happen and he was dating 2, 3, 4 other women over a period of time and STOPPED seeing them because of you…