No amount of horrified back clicking can un-visit an unfriendly acquaintance’s Ok Cupid profile. I’ve heard some great success stories from Ok Cupid, while I didn’t find anyone I wanted to date on there, I did meet an adorable new friend.
Tinder might be stylish and based on an essentially good idea (matching via friends of FB friends/similar interests), but this is 2013 and it is not ok to treat gay women like second class users in any context or medium. I see so much potential here, but the site needs a makeover and more filters/amenities to really be a competitor. Furthermore, by allowing LGBTQ women to remain invisible to straight users, Ok Cupid allows you to date online without male harassment.
Tinder treats LGBTQ users as second class users because it views LGBTQ sexualities as second class sexualities; we are not the norm and therefore not worthy of even the most basic of consideration. In addition to sharing the name of unlikable female television characters everywhere, Brenda struggles with style and utility. I would like to put as much distance between access to my lady-bits and men as possible, even on the internet.
Tinder graciously allows LGBTQ women to sign up for their service, but don’t expect them to treat us as anything other than straight. Virtually nothing offends me, but being treated as if my sexual orientation is irrelevant offends me. First of all, who in God’s name decided “Brenda” would be a good name for a dating application? Underneath a depressing palate of cheap lavender and dreary grey, Brenda does really seem like a sweet, well meaning application. Amenities: Brenda can boast the awesome honor of being the only lesbian dating app in the app store. Other features Brenda boasts include: Experience: One thing I love about Brenda is the girls online.
Experience: Tinder is the cyber-equivalent of standing on a street corner, pointing at passers by, and asking “What about that one? Apparently Tinder thinks gay women are just going through a phase, maybe working through some daddy issues, and all we need to do is look at enough pictures of men and we’ll gave an go back to our God-given place on the D.
Out of morbid curiosity, I created a Tinder account linked to one of my straight guy friends facebook, and surprise surprise: not a single picture of a man popped up. I sifted for so ages in hopes that maybe Tinder really does just treat all people as if their sexual preference is equally irrelevant; it doesn’t. Why not just name the app “Gram Gram” and call it a day?