Otherwise, you’re right: all the best communication skills and purest intentions in the world don’t change the fact that you have a once a week guy on your hands.3. You’re a couple looking for a solution and a good boyfriend wants to make his girlfriend happy.I can’t tell you what will happen, but I can assure you that there are millions of single moms and dads navigating this space with worse relationship partners.Thank you for all of your clear and concise thoughts over the last few years.I have definitely taken things to heart: look for boyfriend behavior; there is a natural timeline where commitment should come by month three, “I love you” around 6 months, living together at 18, engaged at 2-3 years; men do what they want, and so many other pearls.I want a boyfriend that is able to invest in a serious relationship with me.
It’s almost impossible to begin a good relationship from this place of imbalance. To top it all off, his mother had moved in with him! ” My advice to Judy was not to date Alan right now. By the second date, Alan’s obsession with his problems became too much for Judy to handle.On our last coaching call, Judy said, “In the pool of men I have been meeting online, this guy stands out. He might be a great guy, but right now, he’s got too much going on in his life to focus on building a relationship with her. He was stuck in a victim state, and his constant complaining was draining.He has great values, he’s smart and nice looking, and we have a lot to talk about. Once his issues are put to rest and his life is more balanced, he might be more emotionally ready for a relationship. She did not want the role of his therapist or even his sounding board, especially if that became the major focus of their relationship.If she dates him now, she’ll probably feel more like his caretaker than his significant other. She was looking for a relationship that was more balanced, a give and take between two emotionally healthy, happy and independent people.