If I had been wired, I'm sure my blood pressure would have been shown to spike every time he opened his mouth. They almost literally swooned at the guy's lavish praise for his main squeeze. He turned out not to be so sensitive but rather a "narcissist" -- her word.
His comments about dating weren't exactly bolts of wisdom worthy of interrupting our regularly scheduled programming, but they were okay, pretty much what one would predict from a guy so clearly eager to score points -- and perhaps dates -- from his listeners.
In other words, they've graduated from the prestigious "How to really please a partner" college, and you get to be the lucky benefactor of this degree. He or she has been fully immersed in it, and he or she won't take anything less than the real thing.
In fact, the real thing may even have to be an extra level of mind blowing for them to go down that path again.
Don't over indulge in these sessions because you DO NOT want double as his/her therapist, and this is an easy role to fall into. He or she was married to your current significant other for Pete's sake! This means: no stalking him/her on social media, and no peppering your new love interest with questions about the ex.
Their baby has been hurt, and they're going to be extra protective him/her for, well, a long long while.
It may take them a little longer to warm up to you, but if you've met them at all, you're clearly on the right path. Friends are family, and oftentimes they can be even more protective over a hurt friend because they received the unedited version of how this divorce went down (let's be honest, often parents don't get the full play-by-play for their own good.).
I wasn't harsh or negative, but I shared my opinions frankly. The guy the hostess was dating at the time was ripped from the pages of "Sensitive Over 50 Guys in the 21st Century." He was fawning, gushing, practically springing leaks -- all his advice and anecdotes were sandwiched between ravings about how wonderful his girlfriend (the hostess) was.
It was such an over-the-top performance that I was genuinely physically uncomfortable each time he spoke.