But it’s a lot harder to send a note saying you reduced your guest list from 150 to 100, and the recipient didn’t make the cut.
So tread lightly, and only give notice to folks you know you will be inviting, no matter what.
If you get a well-typed, thoughtful paragraph about her bad day or his dinner suggestions, the most impactful response is a nice "k." Or "cool." Or how about "ha." That one always works.
The one-word answer is akin to the smile and nod in face-to-face conversation.
(See above about save-the-dates occasionally being revoked, and your great aunt not even really understanding what they are.) So if a lot of people are going to have to travel for your wedding, sending the invitations out three months in advance will be a greatly appreciated.
(And trust me, nobody will forget about the wedding because you sent them a little early.) There is this false idea floating around out there that if you’re having a formal wedding, and sending formal invitations, that you have to use traditional honorifics…
I mean, you wouldn't simply Never you fear, young Casanova.
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But even more important, if your grandma is operating by a wedding invitation etiquette playbook you’ve deemed irrelevant, you might end up hurting her feelings when you really want to thrill and delight her. That said, there is a lot of wedding invitation etiquette that just hasn’t been updated to make sense in the current world of weddings.
But don't start tapping away at that touchscreen just yet.
Don't you know there are rules to this sort of thing?
The standard rule, which dates from back when weddings were mostly local affairs, is that wedding invitations should be sent out six to eight weeks in advance of the wedding.
But the real truth is lots of folks won’t make travel arrangements until they get an honest-to-God invite.