No guy wants a girl who is constantly telling him what he can and can't do, badgering him about the things he does wrong and the bad habits he has. On the other hand, they don't want to be smothered. They've most likely had a lack of those things for awhile. Divorced guys don't get scared as much as they did before marriage. On the other hand, if you start calling him your soul mate, start texting him every five seconds, and talk about the details of your future wedding, he will run. He probably can't remember the last time he had a good time. Somewhere in between platonic-like touching and mauling makes a divorced guy happy. Chances are, the last few months (or years) of his marriage weren't fun. He doesn't want you plopping yourself down on his lap and making out at the dinner table at a fancy restaurant. Unlike guys before marriage, divorced guys aren't into games. Just like divorced women, divorced men are wounded. They want to be loved, they want to be treated with kindness, they want to feel appreciated, and they want to feel like they are still capable of being in a healthy relationship. Some divorced men want to fall in love right away, and some want to take their time.
The good news is that if you’re here, you’ve passed the denial phase.
If your boyfriend has directly told you that he doesn’t know if he loves you, or that he “loves you but not in love with you”, or he loves you but not sure you are “the one” – it means his feelings for you have changed.
One of my ex boyfriends (I was so in love with him) told me that he still loves me but not sure he wants to live with me anymore and wants to try living apart (But not break up).
Obviously he did not protest…because it was exactly what he wanted..
This is because he feels a lot of guilt from falling out of love.