But others will feel deceived or say things like ‘If you didn’t have time to write me the messages, how are you going to have time for the relationship?’ ” And then there are those who wish these new dating surrogates would go one step further. Can they go out with him on a hot day and see if he shows up in shorts with socks up to his knees?
I asked him about it and he said, ‘I’m not a very good writer so I was having a married friend of mine write the e-mails.’ I felt that was false, like I was falling for the wrong guy.” Too far or not far enough?
Edmond Rostand wrote about courtship via a third party in his 1897 play, Cyrano de Bergerac (later made into the Steve Martin film, “Roxanne”).
The idea of hiring a virtual assistant to handle the hunt for a romantic partner was more recently floated by Tim Ferriss, author of “The Four-Hour Work Week” and New York Post writer Carrie Seim, both of whom hired virtual assistants to help track down dates.
“I was also online dating but didn’t have time for it.
So I found someone on Craigslist to handle my online dating accounts and it worked out great.