It’s one thing to have a crush and it’s the other to crush the crap out of yourself in a self-destructive pursuit of pain and then blame it on someone else.If you have made the choice to continue loving and chasing him with much of it taking place from your head as you wait for crumbs or nothing at all, you’re on a serious avoidance mission because it’s like you want to hide away on these self-created feelings of rejection rather than get out there in the real world and risk yourself in a real relationship.There are two big questions hovering in the comments recently that pretty much amount to the same thing: How do I let go of the guy that didn’t reciprocate my feelings?How do I let go of the guy that I didn’t actually have a relationship with?Option #2: Decide that you won’t be able to adjust to the above reality of a reduced standard of living and say goodbye to the man/woman you love. Let’s take the example of your parents’ decision of allowing you to marry your girlfriend/boyfriend.There’s nothing wrong with choosing either of these options. Make a rational, practical and well-thought out decision, and prepare yourself mentally for the consequences. That analysis might happen in our minds entirely unconsciously. I think it’s very clear that their child’s happiness – while important – is not a determining factor for them so far as this decision is concerned.In doing this, you’re not seeing signs that you need to get real, and you’re not signs that you need to get real.In fact, the person may have no clue that you are even interested in them, or if they do, they may have told you that they’re not interested and you switched to unreciprocated feelings mode and hovered there expecting him to see you in the way that you want to be seen and magically catch up with your feelings.
Quite frankly, any misery you are feeling is for the most part, your own creation because you are not interested in keeping your feet in reality and have been too busy wallowing in your own world.In essence, how do you let go of a one-sided attraction which in your mind has created a relationship out of…For a start, you can’t ‘break up’ when there is nothing to break up from.You’re gonna ride this imaginary donkey of love till it collapses.We’re back at the juncture again where we think that deciding that we love or feel something about someone creates an automatic IOU.