The ‘forces’ at play after a divorce move toward getting on with life by finding someone else quickly who will be all that was missed in the previous marriage. The divorce rate for remarriages is about 50% higher than for first marriage divorces (divorce after remarriage – 60-70%; divorce after first marriage – 43% according to last US Census).
I encourage divorced individuals to take a couple of years to process and get as healthy as they can before they consider dating again.
While I suggest that the damage is even greater in a divorce, it is not as ‘apparent’ or visible to us without taking a second look.
To be able to provide an answer to this question, I would like to begin with the foundation that the Bible provides to us.
“Divorce after remarriage – 60-70%; Divorce after first marriage – 43% “ . clearly reads that if you chose to leave for other than these Biblical principles, you are to remain single and not marry again.
If you want marriage, be reconciled to your spouse.
However, if the unbeliever chooses to leave the marriage, the believer is not under obligation to continue holding to the bonds of the marriage.
Before one should consider dating after divorce, they should allow plenty of time to grieve the loss of the marriage.Yes, I know that there are many unfair things in relationships. If you do go ahead and date and marry again you have certainly not lost your salvation.However, you have chosen to walk outside the will of God, and there are consequences for this action apart from God’s will (called sin).After you have done this homework and find yourself not being ‘forced’ to find a mate, start dating after divorce, you are ready to consider dating and remarriage.Walk slowly and use your support/accountability team to confirm wise choices.