But his experiences have soured him on the idea of ever entering an interracial relationship again.“I wouldn’t dare put another girl through that again,” he says.Straight-up racism was slugged at the couple like a brick to the chest.“There was one time we went to Tesco,” remembers Otukoya.The experiences they describe echo an old racist slight that has been thrown at men of colour who immigrate to predominately white nations since time immemorial: “They steal our jobs, they steal our women.” “It speaks of an Irish sense of patriarchy, that Irish men somehow own Irish women,” says Rebecca King-O’Riain, a senior lecturer in Maynooth University’s department of sociology.King-O’Riain, a mixed-race Japanese-American ex-pat, has conducted significant research into interracial marriage in Ireland.
In those rural towns word gets around and you become the subject of the town.
Richard Bashir Otukoya has some bad relationship stories. They ripple with a hurt most of us don’t experience.
His voice quivers and cracks as he describes a doomed romance with a woman in Letterkenny, Co Donegal.
follows a black man who meets his white girlfriend’s parents.
The films couldn’t be more different in approach, but both are cutting works that explore historical injustices, lasting prejudices and social taboos.